1.13.14
We grind because it's instilled in us. We want more, we want better... But really, we have no idea what that is OR have substantial ways to go about it.
So we grind.
In accordance to what we've been told to do, by people who we're trying to do better by... but will have no tangible guidance from...
i.e- College, (sometimes) Love, Parenting, Fostering Friendships rooted with Loyalty, Our Appearances ...
8.18.15
Let's start light.
Amongst the many things that can fall under "Our appearances," I'll concentrate on our hair. (Because if I got into the weight issue and 'portion control eating,' to politely put it, i'd be addressing a subject that should be written about on it's own, right?)
Because we all know someone who's family is constantly nit picking at what they're eating. Constantly addressing how they're looking a little big (even when they're totally not) who encourages eating more salads than they'd like, not eating after 6, bringing them fruits to eat as snacks, and adding more or less to their plate if they're being served food- depending on if they view them 'too flaka" or "gordita" ...
Curls.
In most latina cultures, we're not raised to love or embrace our hair. It is not until we've grown a little and matured by exposures to other cultures and people who idolize our natural hair, that we choose to love our curls.
Personally, I was raised with the perception that straight hair is more beautiful. My grandmother would relax my hair and it was very rare that you'd ever see my hair with, my now, fabulous curls.
So how and where do we learn to love our natural self if we're not being raised with that mentality?
So the transition then becomes even more difficult because we have to break away from those ideas that have been instilled in us, by people who were only trying to do right by us ... only, their opinion ended up not being factual.
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